Workplace Topics

May 9, 2012

Co-worker's perfume a headache of a problem

Co-worker's perfume a headache of a problem

(Archive image)


Q: A woman in my office wears so much perfume that you can still smell it after she passes by. Unfortunately, her cubicle is next to mine, and the constant odor gives me a headache. When I mentioned this to her supervisor, he said no one else had complained. Now I'm debating whether to leave her an anonymous note or go to human resources. What do you think?

A: In my opinion, no one should ever wear perfume (or cologne) to work, because the smell can be extremely irritating to both co-workers and customers. Perfume wearers tend to be oblivious to this problem, however, because people are seldom aware of their own scent.

Anonymous notes are obnoxious, so someone needs to give your overly-fragrant colleague some personal feedback. Since her boss won't cooperate, the remaining choices are you and the HR manager. If you are brave enough to tackle this talk yourself, make it a request, not a criticism.

For example: "Mary, I need to ask you a favor. Perfume gives me a really bad headache, even if the fragrance is pleasant. Since we sit so close to each other, would you mind not wearing it in the office?"

On the other hand, if your colleague is a touchy sort, it might be safer to have the HR manager deliver the message without mentioning your name.

Marie G. McIntyre is a workplace coach. Submit questions at www.yourofficecoach.com.

Read more
Workplace Topics, , , ,

4 Comments

Nancy Kick on May 9, 2012 11:47 AM | Reply

Make sure to focus on the issue of scented products instead of focusing specifically on the perfume. I once had a coworker with a "perfume problem" and we were working in a Fragrance Free Zone. Turns out if was her scented soaps, lotions and laundry detergent to blame for the fragrant trail she left behind. If you only address the perfume you may be left to have the conversation again.

Elizabeth on May 12, 2012 11:08 AM | Reply

Canada is far more progressive with scent-free policies than is the US. That said, you'll find some model policies if you use "scent free policies" as a search argument. It took three years of steady attention to the issue but I have such a policy in place at my work now.

Many people, including asthmatics and migraine sufferers, are adversely affected by over-scented colleagues. Do your research, check out what the ADA offers, and contact your local government clean air office for information.

Good luck - clean air is worth the work.

Monterey on May 12, 2012 11:57 PM | Reply

This is a real problem. The root of it is that these perfumes and scented detergents etc. used SOLVENTS to make those smells. That's why so many people get sick from it. They are NOT made from ground-up flowers or nice things like that. They ARE toxic. It's like rubbing paint thinner on your skin since the perfume ingredients use solvents. If people knew , they wouldn't even use scented products, and they'd buy the unscented detergents, etc. This is the next big thing---it used to be cigarette smoke. Now people need to learn that those scents they wear (yes, even if you bought it at Nordstrom) are literally toxic.

Julian on May 16, 2012 12:28 AM | Reply

My advice: get another job.

That fact that the manager won't do jack tells me a lot. First, that he or she has no sense of smell. Second, that he or she has no sense of professionalism since no manager worth his or her salt wants and employee who's a mobile mustard gas lab working for them.

If you've got a manager lacking professionalism like that, that tells me you're in a a toxic environment (not just toxic chemical oder).

So you can reasonably bet that HR will also, ahem, decline to do anything about it. And you can bet that in their secret files on you, they're going to tag YOU as the problem.

And certain talking with Mustard Gas Mary there yourself isn't going to do anything but piss her off and make her defensive.

So, at the end of this exercise, your fighting for your own piece of the clean air act is likely going to land you on the wrong side of a manager (already done), HR, and the woman that's causing the problem.

Just get out of there and find a new job. Those folks all deserve one another.

Leave a comment

* required field





Type the characters you see in the picture above.


advertising
Follow NWjobs: Twitter Facebook LinkedIn

Search

Recent headlines

Cool Jobs
Ryan McNamee's cool cruise-line job

Career Center Blog
They're not just company picnics, they're business events

Career Center Blog
Advice for new grads: Get your hands dirty

Workplace Topics
Ditch the golf clubs: Running is the new sport of networkers

Career Advice
Soft skills: Gen Y gets schooled in old-school professional etiquette

Career tools


Subscribe to NWjobs

Career Center Blog Events

Browse by category


advertising

Topics

See all topics